I am writing this article in response to a couple incidents where two or more players in teams weren’t seeing eye to eye. It didn’t seem like they would come to a resolve any time soon…falling prey to the same extraneous disputes every couple days.
Often I found myself frustrated and unwilling to yet again deal with the same childish LITTLE issue that players with a difference of opinion brought to me. Long story short, with sadness and believe it or not, guilt , I was forced to let a player go, and on another occasion to disband an entire team. Suddenly there was tears, anxiety, doubt and even fear. I swear it was like watching a mashup of “The Fault in Our Stars” and “You Before Me” …on a loop…with my crying wife. (YES I linked the trailers just to remind you of a time you bawled your eyes out…your’re welcome). I HATED the fact that it was all because of … well nothing substantial to begin with in the first place ! “I’ll grab the tissues and hold your hand” said no manager ever believe you me.
As you can imagine this had a “slightly less than ideal” ripple effect throughout some of the other teams. Yes, there I was in that all too familiar position…left rebuilding morale and ensuring other teams of their security in the MGO (Mutli Gaming Organisation). A few days had past and the teams clouds of emotions finally dispersed. It was then that I realized something crucial that I would include in my “handling” of similar situations in the future… what would, unknown too me then, be a motivational post filled to the brim with quotes, called “The person behind the player”.
A small cluster-F*@k of quotes to help motivate the players to get to know team mates as more that just a player behind a screen…to understand that personalities differ and there are different ways to deal and approach different personalities. FFS a therapist am I NOT so without further ado, the quotes to save a nation :
- “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Jung
- “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.” – Dale Carnegie
- “Seek first to understand and then to be understood.” – Stephen R. Covey
- “Everyone hears only what he/she understands.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
- “Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.” – Marie Curie
- “If we are to live together in peace, we must come to know each other better.” – Lyndon Johnson
- “A blind man knows he cannot see, and is glad to be led, though it be by a dog; but he that is blind in his understanding, which is the worst blindness of all, believes he sees as the best, and scorns a guide.” – Samuel Butler
- “Understanding can overcome any situation, however mysterious or insurmountable it may appear to be.” – Norman Vincent Peale
- “Whatever you cannot understand, you cannot possess.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
- “Understanding is a two-way street.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
- “The improvement of understanding is for two ends: first, our own increase of knowledge; secondly, to enable us to deliver that knowledge to others.” – John Locke
- “The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.” – Henri Bergson
- “To teach is to understand. To learn is wisdom. To learn together is understanding wisdom.” – Sid Mendenhall
- “Man is always inclined to be intolerant towards the thing, or person, he hasn’t taken the time adequately to understand…” – Robert R. Brown
- “Man know much more than he understands.” – Alfred Adler
- “Understanding brings control.” – Bonewitz
- “If you want to understand today, you have to search yesterday.” – Pearl Buck
- “Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.” – Mohandas Gandhi
- “Any fool can know. The point is to understand.” – Albert Einstein
- “The evil that is in the world almost always comes of ignorance, and good intentions may do as much harm as malevolence if they lack understanding.” – Albert Camus
- “Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved through understanding.” – Albert Einstein
- “Before we can forgive one another, we have to understand one another.” – Emma Goldman
- “Often the hands grasp more quickly than the head.” – Hans Jean Arp
Read these, relax, forgive each other…and most importantly…stop bugging me with your stupid shit 😉 ! Thank you for allowing me to waste your time.