“I’ve realized that you become a bully if you are just watching someone get bullied and you don’t say anything. Speak up! ”
Yesterday marked the start of the official 2020 planning. Our general meeting had been concluded and decisions were made. The last thing I expected was the following to transpire:
Patty Pancake: Hey Pickle. Is Strawberry Star still a part of your team?
Vivien-Lee ‘Pickle’: Heyo, yeah it plays on one of the teams, why? What’s up?
Patty Pancake: Cyber bullying directed at someone on it’s Facebook. Just thought you should be aware. *
*I changed names and slight details to protect the parties involved identities. This conversation was followed by multiple damning screenshots.
I felt like someone had punched me in my gut. I did not expect this from Strawberry Star, I was shocked, sad but most of all I was mad. No. I was livid. I immediately apologised to Patty Pancake and took action along with Lycan.
No one deserves to be bullied, no one deserves to be treated like that and one of my players did this. Not only that, a person I considered to be a friend also partook.
Last night we spoke to Strawberry Star, I’d been holding in my rage since the morning. Promised myself that I would not burst, let Lycan handle this. Shhh Pickle. No Pickle. Oh no she didn’t. and then I couldn’t. I am glad I spoke, I spoke up, I spoke loudly, I spoke decisively and I made my personal and business standpoint clear. In no way could Strawberry misconstrue my words, it was made clear to her that the relationship was over.
I am glad I did that.
I cried after that. I cried for losing a player. I cried ‘cos I lost a friend. I cried for the pain felt by Patty Pancake. I swear in that moment I even cried for all the other people that do not deserve that kind of treatment but they receive it anyway.
In the same moment, I am proud of myself for taking action. For taking a no bullsh*t approach and I expect the same from everyone else.
Today I implore you to stop standing idly by and to take action.