By the power vested in me, in front of the entire gaming community, I now pronounce you Mr. and Mrs. Rush-B. May your days be filled with wins and your nights… also filled with wins. The vow of marriage isn’t one that should be taken lightly, but you have to know all relationships have its own problems. The gamer marriage is no exception.
Anyone involved with a gamer knows the struggle. You want to spend couple of hours together after a long day, but all your partner wants to do is play online games, in which they fight, steal and kill, and talk to their online friends in a language that will make your grandma shy. If this happens every day, eventually some sort of a depression will set in… you’ll pull out a bottle of wine… say “screw it” and open two instead… pull out the cork too quickly tipping the edge of the bottle, causing it to spill and break… and somehow, you’ll end up on the kitchen floor… in a fetal position.
It is true, being married to a gamer can be frustrating. I’m sure just like me, you have threatened to disconnect the internet on the power mid-game at least once. Let’s be honest, your gamer would probably dedicate a lot of time, energy and resources to prevent that trick from happening again. Because, priorities!
Previous generations can’t offer much advice for people married to gamers because, well, I believe it’s a relatively modern situation. So if you’re dating or married to a gamer, welcome to the world that consists of “Rushing B”, leveling up and “bomb has been planted”. I know there are plenty of ladies and gents kicking ass in the gaming world, but there are lots that may need a bit of advice on being involved with a gamer. So, here are a few tips if you have found yourself a gamer partner.
1. FIND YOUR INNER GAMER
Grab that keyboard and embrace the inner gamer that’s hidden deep down inside you. Try spending some time to learn the games they’re interested in and playing. You can even explore different games that interest you more. Your partner will think it is AWESOME that you are showing interest. This will result in you spending some quality time together which may help improve your relationship.
2. ONLINE GAME CHALLENGED?
If you can only manage to make yourself dizzy as your character spins in circle staring at the sky, then step away, and find a hobby you enjoy to keep yourself occupied while they are playing.
3. USE THE MICROPHONE WISELY
Gamers make use of microphones (Headsets) to communicate with their online buddies while they play, your partner might want to be brave and give you the microphone for a while. If your partner entrusts the microphone to you… it is best to filter your responses. That is just until you meet their online friends and they get to experience your sassy responses in person.
4. LET THEM HAVE THEIR GAMING TIME
Gamers need to spend a lot of time playing their games. It is in a gamer’s nature to want to gain experience, level up and became the best gamer they can be. If you don’t share their passion for gaming, don’t become toxic about it. Being moody about it the entire time while they are playing is just a waste of your time because believe me they’re way to concentrated in trying to kill the guy that is trying to kill them to notice you being salty.
Whether your partner is a casual gamer or logs 55+ gaming hours a week, I am convinced there is a way to find balance together and maintain a happy relationship/marriage.
Your situation might differ from mine, but for me, there are far worse flaws a partner/spouse can have than gaming.